How’s that for what seems like a contradiction?
The reason that this law is so important/significant is that it helps you understand and control the normal process of adopting behaviors, beliefs, traits, attributes, and security structures (this will be covered in future sessions). It’s the way that you become who you are every day, it’s why you are who you are, it’s how you became the person that interprets stimulus the way you do, it’s who you are, who you “is”, who you “be”, the very “being” that you “is” (this terminology will be covered in a future session).
It’s important that you understand this, because the problem you see is that it starts as insignificant, so in other words if it’s insignificant, it’s also undetectable. So it happens without “you knowing it”, for good and for bad. Very often you are its prey, however if you understand this law, and how to use it, it becomes an extraordinarily valuable tool as well.
Concept: if today you added one new positive thought to your life and you continue this every day, would today be significantly different than any other day? Would it even be different at all? If today you added one new negative thought to your day and you did this every day, would today be much different than any other day? The answer is undetectable/insignificant. The very problem is you can’t tell if it’s doing good or bad to you.
Have you ever met an incredibly negative person? Everyone knows they’re negative except for whom? Have you ever met a “know it all”? Have you ever met a bitter person? Have you ever met a person that has victim mentality? Have you ever met a person that seems to want you to always feel sorry for them? In turn they are paralyzed. Everyone knows that these people are this way except for the most important person, them. How does this happen?
If it happened quickly (stay with me on this) it would be easily detected. For example, if you take a frog and throw it into boiling water, it will jump right out alive. If you take a frog and you put it in water the temperature of its environment and you increase the temperature one degree at a time, it will eventually boil to death unknowingly.
No person wants to be (knowingly) negative, or have victim mentality, or have “feel sorry for me” mentality, or any type of negative trait/behavior or belief. What normally happens is that some event happens, and around this event a story is created, and the event is interpreted by one’s operating system of their mind. It’s not the events fault. Yes, the event was a stimulus, but the fault lies in one’s operating system.
Read this shoe story slowly and imagine how you would react if you were sitting in this restaurant.
A group of rowdy teens come to a diner, one starts pounding the table, chair, wall and screaming. (How would you react?) The diners become angry, upset, annoyed and one yells “shut that jerk up”. (Do you think that maybe something you might do/think?) One of the teens responds “his mother was just murdered” …and with a new understanding the diner’s paradigm instantly forever changed.
…And his parent that was murdered. Initially the diners interpreted the “event” as a series of behaviors one way, and then that “event” and the exact same behaviors, became interpreted in a completely a different way. The event did not change, did it? What then did change?
Here’s another example of times when you know your conscious mind and your subconscious mind are not in alignment. Your conscious mind adjusts first, and often you’ll hear people say “it just hasn’t hit me yet” or” it hasn’t sunk in yet”. When might you hear this? Often from the players after winning the Super Bowl, or an actress at the Academy Awards, or the birth of a child, or the sudden loss of a loved one.
What is that sensation? What is it that you’re feeling? It’s a disconnection between your conscious and subconscious. This happens when your subconscious mind still has the old set of beliefs and needs to catch up, so there’s a disconnect and you feel strange, out of alignment. To achieve maximum performance, it’s important that your conscious and subconscious are in complete alignment.
That of course was an extreme event. Most events are more subtle and the “victimizer” unknowingly, a loving mother, father or friend, as sad as this is, the victim is an innocent baby. I have worked with thousands of people that as babies were the innocent prey of the very people that loved them the most. Furthermore, if you’re a parent you’re likely, unknowingly, programming your children in a harmful way and your parents unknowingly, likely, programmed you in a harmful way unknowingly. Furthermore, they most often believed that what they were doing was beneficial to you.
For example: (who knows maybe you did this) imagine a baby two years old sitting in a high chair being fed by its mother, and every time feeding time comes, in one hand is a spoon with food and in the other is a toy. As the mother feeds the baby, she shakes the toy and at the same time smiles. And when the victim, I mean baby, eats, mom claps and celebrates, proudly saying “you are mommy’s little girl”. Mommy rewards her little girl for gorging herself (by letting her play, watch TV, get dessert), thinking she’s doing right.
Think about that. What was the damage that was done? How was this significant in the baby’s life, at that very time, at that very moment? That’s right, totally insignificant (baby didn’t put on 30 pounds of fat all the sudden) but eventually significant and destructive. What’s the problem that baby will have later on in life?
Working with thousands wanting to reduce their weight, I have never met one person with a weight problem that wasn’t a victim, or pray of the very people that loved them as children. Of course you can’t blame the mother in this example, as she thought she was doing right, good, loving her precious little innocent baby.
But mother was sowing the seeds of insignificance, which have major significance later in life. For example, if the destructive programming resulted instantly in the baby being fat she would stop right away, wouldn’t she? It’s because of the very fact that it’s insignificant is that it is so destructive. However at the same time, if you understand this law of insignificance, it can be a huge benefit/blessing/tool.
Other seeds of insignificance that a parent may sow. saying to a child “if you keep that up one day you’ll end up in jail”. Ask an inmate if they ever heard that as a kid. Stop lying, you’re always lying, you’re a big fat liar and then the parent is surprised that they continue to lie. Words are very powerful, maybe just maybe the most powerful force on earth, (after love and God).
The reason that you are the way that you are, including your beliefs, your operating system, and the beliefs in your hard drive, all were born as insignificant, then grew and today shape who you are. At times with as the sower being “meaningful and specific” in engineering who you are today, but most of the time a unknowing victim of the environment that you find yourself in, a “wandering generality”. I challenge you to become a meaningful specific, to create, design, and engineer the person that you want to be.
The next time that you do anything that you do and for the millisecond you think it’s insignificant, reflect on this law and think about the consequences of this insignificant thing that you may be doing. Better yet, every day do positive insignificant things (more on this in future sessions) that create a life of joy, peace, fulfillment, happiness, satisfaction, love, cherished moments, gratefulness, and endless possibilities.
The really amazing thing is that even though it starts as insignificant, in other words you don’t notice it, significance happens rather quickly. For example, if you leave your car lights on and you’re sitting in the car for a while, you would be able to listen to the radio and turn on the interior lights. But if you left and came back in the morning, just a night later, the radio and interior lights wouldn’t work and the engine wouldn’t turn over, and the battery would be dead.
Everything that you do in life that’s worthwhile is born insignificant and grows into significance.
This law of insignificance will become one of the pillars that we will use in almost every session so it’s so incredibly important to fully understand.